5 Things a Good Psychic Will Never Tell You

crystal-ballLet the Buyer Beware: Caveat emptor!

This article is from About.com and is really well written by Patti Wigington.  Read on and share:

By Patti Wigington About.com
We occasionally get emails here at About Paganism/Wicca from people that have visited a psychic – or found one online – who has told them something suspicious. Not only something suspicious, but sometimes a dire warning of tragedy that can only be avoided by shelling out large sums of money. There are definitely some red flags to watch out for when visiting a psychic, or anyone else involved in the metaphysical world.  Let’s take a look at a few things you’ll never hear from an honest psychic – and if your psychic or reader tells you any of these, you really need to reconsider paying them any more money. Watch out for these big red flags. (“Read More” original article here)

1. “You’re possessed by a demon, and I’m the ONLY one who can help you. That’ll be $800, please!”

Sounds crazy? Sure does, but there was a woman not too long ago in my local community who was telling people this very thing. Not only was she telling them they were possessed, but she told them she was the only person in town qualified to help them. And for a few hundred dollars – followed by a few hundred more later on – she’d be happy to exorcise the demons. And the best part? She warned her clients not to tell anyone else about this, because it might make the demons angry, and then she – the psychic – might not be able to get rid of them! If a psychic or reader pulls this classic bait-and-switch routine, walk out the door and don’t go back. A variation on this is that you have a curse on you, and this psychic is the only one who can fix it. This doesn’t mean you aren’t cursed – you could be, although it’s unlikely, and you’d usually know it if you were. But if you are, any competent practitioner can help you, not just the individual who’s asking for more money right now. Often, the issue is not whether the person is a competent psychic, but are they an honest businessperson? Are they asking for a fair amount of compensation for their time and hard-earned skill, or are they demanding you pony up hundreds of dollars, because they are the ONLY ONE who can help you? Run away. Now.

2. “Your spouse is cheating on you/trying to kill you/stealing your money.”

Anyone who has ever worked as a psychic or Tarot reader will tell you that there are very few guarantees in the business. A well-trained, intuitive reader can look at a spread of cards and see warnings there, for sure. But they’re usually pretty general, not specific. While we might see an indication that someone in your life is being less than truthful, or that a person you trust is thinking of betraying you, or even that there’s danger looming on the horizon, the fact is that an honest psychic should never tell you that someone is trying to kill you, because that’s just too specific to narrow down.

Sure, if there’s some news that’s less than spectacular, they should tell you that along with the good stuff, but be very wary of anyone who tells you anything that precise.

3. “You’ve done a terrible thing! You’ve been very bad! You need to change your ways!”

I got an email once from a young woman who was very distraught. She’d gone to a psychic, and while the reading started off pretty well, by the time it was over, the reader was scolding and admonishing the client for some small lapse in judgment she’d had. The girl left the place in tears, and went home feeling like a terrible person, simply because she’d made a mistake at some point, and this particular psychic latched onto that, and wouldn’t let it go.

 A good psychic isn’t there to judge you. They’re there to offer you a consultation, to help you determine the situation at hand, and figure out what possible solutions may be coming your way. They are not there to point fingers, berate you, or tell you that you ought to be ashamed of yourself. Now, while there are certainly times when a psychic will tell you things you might not like, there’s a difference between being matter-of-fact about a situation, and being hateful. Personal opinions need to be left at the door.

 4. “Oh, no, you have cancer!”

I hate that I even have to address this, but I’ve gotten at least three messages from people in the past year who were told by different readers or psychics that they had some terminal disease. One heartbreaking email said simply, “A Tarot reader told me I have cancer and I have six months to live. I have three small children. What do I do?” (Answer: You go to a doctor, and don’t ever return to that reader.) If a Tarot reader or psychic ever diagnoses you with a specific disease, get up and walk out right then and there. Can a good psychic tell if you (or someone in your family) may be facing illness? Often, yes, and if that’s the case, they should certainly say something along the lines of “I’m concerned that someone in your family may be facing some medical issues. Has everyone had a checkup recently?” Even if they do pick up on the idea that someone close to you may not be long for this world, no one should ever tell you Grandma is going to be dead by next Tuesday. A far better approach – and more realistic one – is, “Your grandmother is quite elderly. If you’ve ever thought about spending more time with her, now is a good time to do so.” To tell a client that they have cancer or any other specific disease is just plain irresponsible. It generates fear, and no psychic should be doing that. Oh, and the gentleman whose email is quoted above? He did go to a doctor, and there’s not a darn thing wrong with him.

5. “This is the way things are, and there’s nothing you can do to chgyspyange them!”

Are we victims of fate’s random whims, or do we choose our own destiny? No one can prove either way for sure, but each and every one of us has some degree of control over what happens to us. If you don’t like the way things are going in your life, you have the power to make the necessary changes. You may have to make them slowly, and one at a time, but you can make them. If a psychic tells you that everything he or she is seeing is etched in stone, and you just have to suck it up and deal, I’d be very skeptical. You have choices, and you get to choose your own path. After all, it’s your journey – you can decide where it leads you.

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Email Tarot Readings

pents10When getting a tarot, or any other kind of reading, we are often worried about what will be seen and what kind of shame will be exposed by going to a reader. If at any point you get to have a live reading in person, you quickly realize that those fears are unfounded.

Your reader is there to help you get an answer to a burning question, reveal available options that you might not be seeing, and to bring you some peace of mind. The last thing a reader wants to do is to upset you or to try and delve into a personal matter you don’t want scrutinized. We just don’t do that. Once you’ve been to an ethical reader it becomes a lot easier to have one done. Your fears are allayed and you can get in there and ask what you need to know.

And it’s even easier by email; you ask your question and wait.email

Electronically – there’s no visual cues to cold read with. This basically means that they won’t be able to make it up as they go along. No facial expressions and no body language to gauge your reactions from and to respond appropriately. General broad readings that apply to anybody can quickly be spotted.

Other upsides are that you don’t have to be clear your diary or wait to be seen. Send you email question and you’re done.

Any other bonuses? Variety. There are so many readers to choose from, you really can shop around to find the best fit. Get recommendations, find testimonials, ask friends who have had readings about their experiences and who to contact and who to avoid. There are many people who have been to bad readers and are very happy to warn you about the pitfalls that you may encounter. However, there will also be many people who have had wonderful experiences with readers – get them to give you names and how the experience was for them.

Take the plunge and have a reading with somebody that resonates for you.

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Mercury Retrograde

BronzeAs a Cartomancer, I start to get a noticeable increase in reading requests around the times of the planet Mercury going in, what appears to be, a reverse direction.  This happens about three times a year for about 22 days at a time.

There are many excellent resources explaining what Mercury Retrograde is and how it functions astrologically, (for an excellent detailed resource try PANDORA ASTROLOGY) but I’m not going to delve into the finer points of astrology here.  This post  is just a short piece addressing what we will be experiencing during that time.

When Mercury turns retrograde, we will have loads of adventures and then Mercury turns direct againFor about two weeks before and after M-Retrograde you will feel it – as it arrives and as it leaves: This is called the shadow period.

During this time, usually, I have many clients wanting readings.  Everything’s going wrong – their lives are all over the place… the good news?  It’s not you, it’s just Mercury retrograde.

What Happens?

You’ll start to notice an inordinate number of miscommunications.  In fact, everything ruled by Mercury in astrology seems to be a little topsy-turvy.  Aside from arguments, you’ll notice traffic and travel plans and actions are delayed.

A simple to read resource at CRYSTAL LINKS gives a brief overview:

Medical or Dental: Diagnosis made could be wrong, appointments rescheduled or cancelled.

Business: Problems with contracts, meetings, merges, paper work, etc. (Sign Nothing)

Telecommunication: Phones, satellites, computer systems and related

Travel: Lost luggage, flight delays, vehicle problems, getting lost even with a GPS system

Decisions: You feel indecisive

Relationships, friendships and partnerships: Changes made and reviewed (don’t marry now)

Written work will be redone due to errors or change of content.  Creativity could be stifled.  If you start a diet,you’ll quit when retrograde is over.  Emotions are heightened.  Purchases may be returned: They may be broken or you’ll decide you don’t like them.  Many things simply won’t add up!  If you play a trick on someone it will backfire on you.

During this period of heightened sensitivity Mercury is sometimes said to be entering the underworld, so don’t be surprised when your intuition is off the charts.

What Do You Do?

I find that when I avoid the basic pitfalls of Mercury Retrograde as stated above – I tend to coast through fairly unscathed.  I avoid starting things, purchases, travel and signing anything.  I tend to focus on doing things that have been piling up, reconnecting with old friends, spending time re-establishing relationships, suddenly reconnecting with old clients.  This is you “RE” time and I hope that it will be fairly smooth sailing for you.

Click HERE to check if we’re in Mercury Retrograde – or just to get the next dates.

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Posing Your Question

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Getting a card reading is fantastic.  So many avenues of exploration and so many ways to maximize your time by avoiding that which doesn’t work and focusing on what really works for you.

question-mark-stockimageSo how do you, as a Querent, formulate a question that gets the best answer?

It seems to me that different ways of asking works for different readers, however, there seems to be a few common themes regarding which questions work best.

One simple method that works really well, is to keep things positive.  Quite literally.

Our subconscious has a problem understanding little words that negate; remove and avoid the “no” words, the “not” words and the “don’t” words.  It is FAR easier to answer “Is he faithful” than “Is he unfaithful”.

I can easily let you know if your planned purchase is what you really need, than having to work through a “This isn’t what I need, right?”  It’s a really small thing, but framing questions this way saves you time and money.

“How is that?”, I hear someone ask.  In-person readings are normally charged by time, the longer it takes to re-frame your question by your reader, the more time’s spent and the monetary amount is slowly increasing with the minute hand.  If you’re choosing an email option, emailing back and forth to clarify the question is going to really mess with your delivery time.

Another great way to frame a question is to avoid “yes” or “no” questions.  Depending on your reader, a closed question often doesn’t get much response.  A few readers might include the “why” with the yes/no answer, but you’re severely limiting the kind of feedback your question could generate. Asking Open-Ended questions prevents your reading being limited…BUT…

9HeartsDon’t ask too broad a question either.

You want to limit the range of your question to a certain degree so that you can get a workable answer to your questions, and not standard stock-phrases that don’t really mean anything.  Striking this happy medium can save you time and money.  Luckily most readers and seers will help to re-phrase your question into something more appropriate to their answering style.    If your questions are too nebulous, your answers will be just as vague.  The cards tend to answer in the way that the question was asked.

Neutrality.  You want to be in a calm space for your reading.  Being desperate or emotionally distraught at the reading seven-diamonds-carddoesn’t do you or your reader any favours.  Also, keep an open mind.  Are you having the reading to gather information that could help you, or is it to prove that you are right?  If the issue to be read about is upsetting for you, try to wait until you are in a better space, or ask for an email reading.  In the email, try to stay on topic and ask for what you want.

The best thing over all is to write down your questions before-hand.  There is no need to feel that it has to be a spontaneous response in regards to your questions.  A well worked out question that’s written down saves loads of hassle, time and money.

The last point I want to address is that you are asking the questions – keep yourself as the focus.  You want the best for you, limit or avoid asking about other people.  Of course we are all inter-connected so to some degree another person comes up in your reading, but they are coming up in relation to you.  Try to keep the focus on you and you’ll get much clearer questions.  To sum up:

  • Keep the phrasing positive
  • Avoid closed “yes” or “no” questions by asking Open-Ended questions
  • Don’t ask too broad a question either – the more specifications, the better it is for you
  •  Stay Neutral
  • Keep yourself as the focus

There are  also the “37 Questions” by  Alec Satin.  He no longer has his blog up, but a significant post that he shared was:

“What do you ask the tarot when you don’t know what to ask?”

It is 37 of the best tarot questions by  Alec Satin to get you started.  You can customize any of these questions to best match your particular situation.

What do I most need to know questions

  • What do I most need to know about my love life?
  • What do I most need to know about my career?
  • What do I most need to know about the situation with my sister/brother/husband/friend/mother?

How can I move forward questions

  • How can I move my career forward?
  • How can I move my love life forward?
  • What’s trying to come forth in my life?
  • What’s the strongest foundation to build upon?

Choices

  • I can go two ways. Help me decide which way to go.
  • What are the pros and cons of these two choices?
  • How can I make the best possible decision?

Do this – Don’t do this questions

  • What should I do about the situation with my work?
  • What shouldn’t I do about it?
  • What should I do about the situation with my sister/brother/mother/father/spouse?
  • What shouldn’t I do about it?

Blessings in your life

  • How can I restore my hope for the future?
  • What blessings do I bring to my life?
  • What blessings do my friends and loved ones bring to me?
  • What blessings are coming to me from the Divine?
  • How is fortune smiling on me?
  • Where is love in my life?
  • How can I know that there is meaning in my life?

 Hidden things

  • What am I ignoring?
  • What am I not seeing?
  • What’s holding me back?
  • What am I denying?
  • What am I seeing that’s not true?
  • What have I forgotten?
  • What could trip me up?

Snapshot questions

  • What can I learn from the past?
  • What is the future telling me?
  • What cycles are impacting me?
  • What have I learned?
  • Where am I strongest?
  • What should I look out for?

Action questions

  • What if anything needs to be done?
  • How can I communicate this in the best way possible?
  • How will the trip go?

 


Some other sites that address how to ask a great question are:

 

Donnaleigh’s site gives some great question formulation advice:

What is the best way to ask a question?

 

Llewellyn Worldwide Journal gives some practical question tips:

Ten Practical Questions to Ask the Tarot

 

Aeclectic Tarot Forum has an extensive list of possible questions:

List of Tarot Questions

 

BiddyTarot has a great list of what not to ask:

What NOT to Ask the Tarot

My Fortune in Tea

teaHere’s a bit of a change from card reading.

Many of us know of the concept of reading our tea leaves, but not quite sure what it’s all about.  Readings that require consulting that which is left behind in a cup or glass  includes tea leaves, wine dregs (oenomancy) and coffee grounds. Tea readings are referred to as tasseography, tasseomancy or tassology- and it is not considered unlucky to read for yourself.  The name is simply from the French word for cup “tasse”.

The tradition is often passed down in families and most people will know of an older female family member that reads the leaves.

This is of course a form of divination and as with any future preview, it’s to see what choices you have available.  Never take a reading as gospel – this often leads to self-fulfilling prophecies and heartbreak.

Coffee was introduced to Europe a century before tea and the first London coffee shop opened in 1652.  Coffee was for a long time a lot cheaper than tea which was considered a luxury item.

The dregs of herbal tea infusions used to cure illness was taken by the family Matriarch and used to divine the cause of the illness.

Some consider coffee grounds to be better for the inner world and a thick coarse Turkish-style of coffee is best for this purpose, however there are quite a few people who feel that reading coffee dregs for yourself is unlucky.

In the story Carmen, the Gypsy divines her death by coffee grounds, for the opera the story was altered and she uses a deck of cards.

For a quick WIKI on tea-leaf reading which includes some symbols, click here.

For a more detailed overview and to try it yourself  – go here.

For a great video link to do your first tea leaf reading, watch Amber McCarroll on Youtube here.

Cartomancy

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Cartomancy – Ivan Vladimirov 1928 Russian Federation

Cartomancy requires no belief from our querent/sitter/seeker and also requires no specific religious or spiritual belief. All that you need is to be comfortable enough to ask questions and an open mind to hear the answers.

The reader asks your question and the assembly of cards is interpreted to synthesize an answer.  The individual cards become part of a larger complete story.  They are acting as the symbols of concepts which are being translated into language without taboos and no precepts to dictate their method.

The reader reads that which they see in the cards and tries to place it into an understandable framework for the person asking.  To facilitate this, the reader might ask a few clarifying questions.  The more focused the seeker’s question, the less need for clarification.

The range of information available is limited only by your imagination.  Each reader has their own unique methods of placement and reading: from traditional to personally styled and everything in-between.

My OCD-like little quirk is that I stick to this one rule when I read:  If I see it once in a reading it’s possibly going to be a true interpretation of what is in front of me, if I see it twice it’s most probably accurate, if I get the same information three times it has then become a certainty.

Why would I stick to something like this?  Simple – it’s a personal crutch that developed because when I use it, it works for me and delivers great results.  Do other methods work? Absolutely!

Cartomancy defined from around the Web:

Webster’s 1913 Dictionary

Car´to`man`cy

The art of telling fortunes with cards.

Google

cartomancy
ˈkɑːtə(ʊ)ˌmansi/
noun
noun: cartomancy
  1. fortune telling by interpreting a random selection of playing cards.
Origin
late 19th century: from French cartomancie, from carte ‘card’ + -mancie (see -mancy).

From Wikipedia

Querent

as “one who seeks” is derived, according to the Oxford English Dictionary, from the Latin quærēns “seeker,” the present participle of quærere “to seek, gain, ask.”

It is clear that Querent became used to denote “a person who questions an Oracle” because it is usually when you have a problem that requires Otherworldly advice that you would seek out the oracle in the first place.

Divination

(from Latin divinare “to foresee, to be inspired by a god”, related to divinus, divine) is the attempt to gain insight into a question or situation by way of an occultic, standardized process or ritual.[3] Used in various forms throughout history, diviners ascertain their interpretations of how a querent should proceed by reading signs, events, or omens, or through alleged contact with a supernatural agency. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Divination

Tarot reading

is belief in using cards to gain insight into the past, current and future situations by posing a question to the cards, i.e. cartomancy.

The Fortune Teller, by Art Nouveau painter Mikhail Vrubel, depicting a cartomancer

 Cartomancy is fortune-telling or divination using a deck of cards. Forms of cartomancy appeared soon after playing cards were first introduced into Europe in the 14th century.[1] Practitioners of cartomancy are generally known as cartomancers, card readers, or simply readers.

Cartomancy is one of the oldest of the more common forms of fortune-telling. It is similar to tarot card reading in that various card spreads are used, such as single card, “Destiny Square,” and 3 cards.[2] The tarot can also be used in cartomancy.[3]

Cartomancy using standard playing cards was the most popular form of providing fortune-telling card readings in the 18th, 19th and 20th centuries. In English-speaking countries, a standard deck of Anglo-American bridge/poker playing cards (i.e., 52-card, four-suit set) can be used in the cartomancy reading; the deck is often augmented with jokers, and even with the blank card found in many packaged decks. In France, the 32-card piquet playing-card deck was, and still is, most typically used in cartomancy readings, while the 52-card deck was, and still is, also used for this purpose. (A piquet deck can be a 52-card deck with all of the 2s through the 6s removed. This leaves all of the 7s through the 10s, the face cards, and the aces.)

WHY GET A TAROT READING?

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Getting a Tarot reading is very exciting.

The biggest reason that many people have asked me for a reading has been to find options for the present predicament that they are in or to find the best way to start something.

The best questions have been about finding the options available and how to make things go in a more rewarding direction.  The reason so many readers say that they are not fortune tellers, is that most of them don’t do fated predictions.  They simply show you the currents of your life and what resources you may have available to you.

It’s the most wonderful way to stay out of trouble and make the most of your own life path.  Each reader is different, so you will get subtle nuances of difference or hugely different readings, bringing different things to the fore.

Ultimately you need to be happy with your reader.

To get the most out of your reading your questions need to be focused.  The more vaguely that the question is asked, the more chance there is for a vague answer that tries to cover all that your question could mean.  A good idea to keep in mind is that the clearer your question, the clearer your answer.  You don’t have to take this to extremes, just keep in mind that a little clarity goes a long way.

A decent reader never judges you.  We’ve seen a lot and have our own lives, we really don’t judge who you are, whom you love or what you do.

Your reader will let you know what’s going to happen and will try to get you familiar and comfortable with the process.

Try keep an open mind and remember that your reading is always private.  Besides your reader, only you get to see what’s going on.  If it gets into embarrassing territory that you don’t want to deal with, it is really okay to say so.  Your boundaries will be respected.  It’s really much easier for your reader if you say you don’t want to discuss something than making up a white lie that will save you from embarrassment.  Giving the wrong information will mess with your reading and in the end you’ll end up with something that’s not as good as it could have been.

Ultimately you need to be comfortable with your reader, find someone that’s right for you.

(Hopefully you’ll pick one of us to read for you.)